Being a girl....Being glad

So, here I go, on as many rotations around the Sun,as would life permit....but only, differently abled than the clan that supposedly rules this planet-'the male'. How differently abled,is a question to be answered. What makes me, or the rest of us-'the ruled' different from 'the rulers'?I would like to clarify that this is no hate article by one of those feminists out on a cry for women empowerment.Well the myth of 'the ruled' and 'the rulers' was one thing that changed the face of this earth like no other concept did.It has restricted mankind to unimaginably small circles.
Biologically, we were indeed created different with abilities to perform different tasks.But to force each other to stick to a set of things even if one is capable of doing more is to make fools out of ourselves.This not only applies to men forcing women to the confines of four walls but women refusing to accept a helping hand from men in the kitchen;a man who does that is 'unmanly'!This narrow line of thought would never lead the feminists or even the genuine fighters attain what they wish for-women empowerment.
A lot of thinking has to go into the very definition of the term women empowerment. Who will empower us????-the men?What do we want in the name of empowerment?When I consider my own life, I only realise that I have to empower myself to do what I want and that there is nobody out there waiting to offer it all in a platter.I get what I want and what I decide to give myself.Ofcourse, there would be a lot of brandings and calling names in the process.But that is too small a price to pay for what you really want.Sensitizing ourselves,being aware and awake and the very process of being is important.Who can teach us to enjoy life?When we start enjoying our own lives, who could ever make us feel bad?After all, if we let someone hurt us,we probably deserve it.
So the very course that the fight has taken is misleading....let us not fool ourselves.We're not fighting the true enemy...infact there is no enemy,but yeah there are ignorant people;they just need to be given as much importance as their actions deserve.Now the question is,what would our own actions be and not what the reactions would be......Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.It is to be expected.Ultimately,its our responsibility to fashion our actions so that when the reactions occur, we get projected in the direction we want to march.......

What is what is.....@@!..!??

The other day I was reading a collection of J.Krishnamoorthy's talks on self-knowledge(now, dont brand me.this is only a rare phenomenon that occurs in times of depression or total joblessness).I stumbled upon his answer for a question on the duality.He says that duality is a result of an inner conflict between 'what is' and 'what is not'.In his example,he takes takes arrogance, the not socially acceptable virtue(!) as 'what is' and humility,the ideal virtue as 'what is not'.In his desire to be the ideal and hence socially be accepted,the individual strives to be 'what is not'.This creates conflict and ultimately the duality and the perplexity...
So much for social acceptance!I assume that this craving for the social acceptance stems from the conditioning.The society has laid down things that are acceptable for itself and things that are not.Who decides?Unfortunately,somebody did and we chose to follow blindly...When I decide that I do not need the acceptance of the society and just be 'what is',the society just cannot take it.It follows me,it is 'concerned' and it forcefully makes me believe that without its acceptance I would be doomed(which I would gladly be).Now,I dare to make a second assumption that Iam firm about being 'what is'.Here comes the herculean task-how do I identify 'what is' and 'what is not'?
We cannot follow krishnamoorthy's example and come to a conclusion that the socially unacceptable is always 'what is'.It might just not be the case.We cannot also decide that we see the socially acceptable as 'what is' only because of the conditioning.It might be 'what is' afterall....If I have to break all the conditioning to know 'what is' and 'what is not',how do I go about it?Is it really possible to still live in this society and break the very conditioning that it has forced upon me.Well though I think that breaking the conditioning might be possible,it would be quite difficult to say the same about identifying 'what is' and 'what is not'.If we take happiness and self satisfaction as measures to identify 'what is' there is a possiblity for us to be wrong.The happiness might just be because of the change or something that is momentary.I might not enjoy doing it for long.
So what then is the solution to this problem of identifying 'what is' and 'what is not'?I need time.........I need to reflect on myself,my priorities,things that I dont mind losing for 'what is'.I need to know both 'what is' and 'what is not' and then let 'what is' permeate me and stay forever.This,ofcourse wouldn't be an effort which it should not be in any case.It should just be experiencing both and letting 'what is' take its place all by itself.But time is what appears to be too dear.The question of to be or not to be that I had raised earlier interferes with this process of identifying 'what is'.Suddenly,my time doesnt seem to be mine afterall....Its the 'concerned' society that dictates what is to be done at each stage.One has to wait untill one is independent(in the worldly sense..hmmm.....financially??) because, you are not allowed to disobey your parents or shatter their dreams.Would the wait ever end?